tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445618500738019321.post7622129623503064372..comments2012-02-08T07:58:09.557-08:00Comments on Livinglife: How do you cope with your first year angleversary?Angie Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09592721942177422906noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445618500738019321.post-41475241458528288752010-05-13T18:10:46.181-07:002010-05-13T18:10:46.181-07:00Hi sweetie. I miss you!
Its so hard with Adam'...Hi sweetie. I miss you!<br />Its so hard with Adam's first heavenly birthday coming, and the only advice I can offer is to start doing things now if you feel suffocated, even something as small and sweet and simple as lighting a candle for him. You have received some wonderful advice and loving words above I echo them all. You have made some GIANT steps here by writing your thoughts and I encourage you to keep it up as much as you can. This is your safe place, your canvas, paint whatever you want on it. And always let us know if you need anything at all, as we are always here and pray for you every day.<br />Thinking of Adam tonight. Love, Nan xxxNan & Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04379229157112328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445618500738019321.post-8118022760528127192010-05-11T22:58:54.787-07:002010-05-11T22:58:54.787-07:00Angie, my sweet friend, your year has been terribl...Angie, my sweet friend, your year has been terribly hard. You have shown grace and strength through it all, but sometimes it's not strength that we need to show. Sometimes it's vulnerability that needs to shine through, for our own healing, and sometimes even to help others around you! I know you have a hard time sharing, but I will be praying that you can share more and open up more and let this burden off of your chest! I think writing is the best way to start. I find that when writing I can say so much and I think people expect that of me when I see some IRL too, and that's not always how I am. Just know that we (fab 4) are here for you, we're behind you and support you 100%. Sending you love, as I know this angelversary will be hard!Denihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16241957159520703116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445618500738019321.post-3381766883767376142010-05-11T22:33:05.584-07:002010-05-11T22:33:05.584-07:00i agree that no one in the outside world wants to ...i agree that no one in the outside world wants to really hear you talk about your grief. and that it is difficult to just 'bring it up' keep writing about it on here though, we all are happy to listen and HEAR you. having difficulties ttc after loss and your dad dying is a double whammy and i can relate to half of that, sending lots of love from over the seas, anne xxxdotalothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08732541656893319030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445618500738019321.post-34231730369846908932010-05-11T20:59:34.179-07:002010-05-11T20:59:34.179-07:00Angie,
Sending you hugs sweet friend. I know it ...Angie, <br /><br />Sending you hugs sweet friend. I know it is hard to open up out loud as it is hard for me also, but i find that i write what i'm thinking a lot better than i say it out loud. So i say just keep writting as a way to help you build up to talking about it and also just ease your mind of things that may be running through it. thinking of you and sending you lots of love.Shandreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09940325534777199906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445618500738019321.post-18590356729047133752010-05-11T16:50:25.338-07:002010-05-11T16:50:25.338-07:00Sweetest Friend,
As you know, we share the same m...Sweetest Friend,<br /><br />As you know, we share the same month, May, for our Angelversaries. And, just as we endured our dreaded EDD's we will come through this date as well. I won't promise the Angelversary to be an easy day, it will be difficult. For me, the days leading up to the Angelversary, or 1st Heaven Day, were the worst. I found peace and "some" understanding in the actual day. <br /><br />To honor Christian I designed "sewing the seeds of LOVE", a project to pass along flower/herb seeds to other BLM's and honor our children. I HAD to do something, for him and most of all for me, as HE needs nothing...all is PERFECT in heaven. However, I needed to know that I honored his brief life and soothed my aching heart all the same. No one other than a fellow BLM could understand "why" there is such a great need to Mother a child in Heaven. Honor little Adam in your way Angie...do what makes you feel good. I didn't discuss what I was doing to honor Christian with others, only the BLM community, as they are the only ones that fully understand. Think on it and you will come up with the "perfect" way to honor his life and we will be honoring Adam with you and loving you.<br /><br />No, life is not the same anymore. It's different and each day is a challenge, but worth living and persevering on in search of the dream that eludes us. Grieving takes a long time and we all go through it at our own pace. Some days we feel good and other days we can't function at complete capacity, but its normal given the situation. All we can do is will ourselves forward and find the positive in each day :)<br /><br />I'm glad you are seeing a therapist to help you work through things, as its healing :) Unfortunately, you were dealt a lot of loss in a short period of time. And, we grieve that he haven't conceived again as well...and we grieve that we are facing more drastic measures to have an earthly child. It's SO OVERWHELMING! BUT, we will make it! And, I refuse to believe any different.<br /><br />Be good to yourself and let me know what I can do for you. I'm here to ease your hurting heart however I can, okay? Just email anytime.<br /><br />I love you sweet friend, as you have lifted me many, many times with your optimistic words of wisdom. Now, let me do the same....<br /><br />Remember, we are just slightly past half time :) <br /><br />xoxo<br />AndreaAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06709001842788289402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445618500738019321.post-50299020308814097212010-05-11T13:58:18.479-07:002010-05-11T13:58:18.479-07:00Just wanted to send you hugs! It's so hard, b...Just wanted to send you hugs! It's so hard, but I think opening up may be more healing than you can imagine. I know we are all different, but I feel best after getting to talk/share about our angel! I am praying for you!Britthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03453298373390957941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445618500738019321.post-80572435820647675042010-05-11T13:48:08.685-07:002010-05-11T13:48:08.685-07:00I think you are facing it in a MOST graceful way.....I think you are facing it in a MOST graceful way....<br /><br />Thinking of you! xoxoxLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01828552745708177768noreply@blogger.com