First I want to wish everybody a Wonderful New Year .
I hope that the babylost mothers that are trying to conceive( one of them is me ) will go on to a happy and healthy pregnancy and have a baby to take care of this year.
For those that are expecting a baby I hope and pray for a normal pregnancy and that you will welcome a perfect child to the world this year.
To be honnest ,thinking about the New Year fills me with both hope and fear ....
I would love to write about how positive I am and how much I look forward to the new year but I cant help feeling fear too , will it really be better ?
What will happen ?
Will we conceive naturally as I wish to do or will we move on to IVF ?
Will IVF work ?
Will our relationship survive the pressure of infertility and TTC " on demand"
Immediately after writing this I realize how negative it sounds ....but how can it not when I look back at the last two years and remember the loss of our first angel Adam , the loss of my father and the loss of our second angel baby .
If somebody had told me this was going to happen to me lets say 5 years ago it would have been hard to believe , but here I am and I have survived all this.
It has changed me forever and in my good moments I am proud of myself for having survived it .
I have grieved but I have also tried to live and keep myself busy and keep up a normality .
Today I looked through our photographs from the last two years and it was a strange feeling :
we have done " normal " things , we have travelled , we have had family gatherings , we celebrated Christmas and New Year this year too .
I look at myself on the photographs and I look " normal " nobody can tell by looking a t me on the photograph that I have gone through so much heart-break the last two years:
I can still smile and look " normal "
The thing is that I am not " normal " anymore or maybe I should rather say that I am not the person I used to be .
I miss the person I used to be , I was happier then ...
Now I struggle to have hope when it used to come to me spontanously before ,
I used to take for granted that I was going to have a wonderful life , but now I´m not so sure ...I nearly expect another disaster in my life instead of expecting the good....
When I look at our photos from last year my life looks great : we have gone to nice places ,we have enjoyed meeting family and friends and I know this is also a true picture and I am grateful for being able to do them - we have done many nice things but it is as I cant believe that I have done all that , that I am the smiling person on the photo...
In one way I wish I could forget about the last two years but at the same time they are now a part of me , insepereable .
I want to believe that this year will be a good one , that I will eventually feel happy so much that it will take away the pain from the last two years .
I want to feel positive and optimistic thinking that now it should only get better....but its hard for me to do ,there is always the little doubt that says " what if its not going to get better ? "
I am thankful that I spent Christmas and New year on the 2 ww and still wait ....as it at least gave me some space to hope and keep up my spirit.
I try to be proud of myself for making efforts to celebrate Christmas and New Year , to decorate our home , to host my family for Christmas and to get dressed up and go out to celebrate the New Year .
I hope it will be a good year this time .
Ready to celebrate beginning of 2011
After the snowstorm outside